I haven’t always been someone who writes books about emotional control, overthinking, or managing life’s chaos. In fact, I used to be the guy who snapped too easily, overthought everything, and let his own emotions run the show.

I’ve been through it all—

• Two divorces.
• Three marriages.
• More than 15 house moves.
• Multiple redundancies.
• And the rollercoaster of building a coaching practice from scratch.

I know what it feels like to sit there replaying conversations in your head, wondering if you said the wrong thing. I know what it’s like to walk away from situations regretting how you reacted or feeling emotionally drained after yet another stressful interaction.

And I know the feeling of waking up one day and thinking:

"Why am I letting my emotions control my entire life?"

The Turning Point

For me, that moment of clarity didn’t come wrapped in a neat little life lesson. It came through years of mistakes, emotional triggers, failed relationships, and watching my own reactions sabotage my happiness.

I realised that if I didn’t figure out how to manage my emotions, I’d keep repeating the same cycles over and over.

That’s when I threw myself into emotional intelligence, personal development, and understanding how the mind works—especially under stress.

What I learned changed everything.

I discovered that emotional triggers are deeply wired patterns—reactions based on past wounds, fears, and unconscious thoughts. And unless we take control, they’ll keep running the show.

I figured out how to:

• Stop overreacting.
• Break the cycle of overthinking.
• Manage emotional outbursts.
• And most importantly, respond to life’s challenges instead of reacting impulsively.

Why I Write & Coach

I didn’t want to keep this knowledge to myself.

I started writing books like Stop Triggering Me, It Doesn't Matter,The Power of a Promise, Unmasking People, So What! Who Cares What They Think, because I knew there were so many people out there struggling with the same things I had—emotional overwhelm, overthinking, anxiety, and feeling like life was just too much sometimes.

But writing hasn’t been easy.

I’m a self-published author, which means no big-name publisher, no massive marketing team—just me, my laptop, and a ton of coffee.

Self-publishing is tough. You have to wear all the hats—writer, editor, marketer—but it’s worth it because every single message I get from someone saying, “This book changed how I see myself,” makes it all worth it.

That’s why I also started coaching and mentoring at UnlockYourPromise.com.

I work with people who:

• Struggle with emotional outbursts.
• Overthink everything and feel mentally drained.
• Get triggered easily and don’t know why.
• Want to build emotional coping skills and finally feel in control.

Together, we dig deep into what’s holding them back, where their emotional triggers come from, and how to break free from the cycles that keep them stuck.

My Mission

My mission is simple:

To help people stop living on emotional autopilot and start taking back control.

Because I believe that when you learn how to manage your emotions, everything changes.

✔ Relationships get easier.
✔ Work stress becomes manageable.
✔ You stop overthinking every little thing.
✔ And most importantly—you feel calmer, clearer, and more confident in yourself.

A Bit More About Me

When I’m not writing or coaching, you’ll probably find me:

• Walking around quieting my mind, or playing football.
• Moving house (again—I swear I’m up to 16 by now).
• Diving into a new personal development book or podcast.
• Or just trying to stay calm when life tests me—because trust me, it still does.

I’m not perfect, and I never pretend to be.

But I’ve learned how to manage my emotions in a way that makes life simpler, easier, and a hell of a lot less stressful.

And if I can do it, I promise—you can too.

If you want to:

• Stop overthinking.
• Master your emotions.
• And finally feel like YOU are running your life (not your triggers)...

Let’s connect!

You can find my books on Amazon or visit me over at UnlockYourPromise.com where I share tips, coaching, and resources to help you break free from emotional chaos and start living on your terms. Or simply send me an email at support@unlockyourpromise.raiseaticket.com

Here’s to a calmer, more confident, and trigger-free you. 🚀